Saturday, May 19, 2007

Staying Positive

This morning I read a post written by Nicole at A Modern Goddess Online which was all about the power of words. It is a great little story that you should read. Read about the frogs that failed in their challenge because they listened to everyone tell them that they couldn't do it, that they wouldn't succeed. Those words came true. The frogs heard them and they believed them. The result was that they failed. It was like a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I think it is important to remember that not all the negative talk comes from others. Our self talk can be more negative and destructive than anything anyone else can say to us. While most people have a cut off point in what they are prepared to say to someone else, we don't have that restriction when talking to ourselves. When I stop and listen to what I am saying to myself on those bad days, I ask myself "Would you say that to anyone else?" and the answer is often "No."

As Elinor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." That is a very true statement and it applies to the way we treat ourselves too. It also implies some discipline on our part. Learning to use positive self talk is like learning anything else. It takes a conscious decision and it takes a lot of practice to get right. You will fall off the positivity wagon sometimes because you are a learner. Get up and get right back on. The best thing about positive self talk is that it can be louder in your head than the talk of others. Imagine if all you could hear were encouraging words and cheers? How far could you go then? What things would you try if you knew that you could succeed?

Practice treating yourself with the same respect you give others. Practice talking to yourself in a postive and encouraging way. Go out and give life a go, knowing that you have your key supporter in place.


Michelle said...

I actually think its harder to defeat the power of negative thinking when it is created internally. It is definitely worth surrounding ourselves with positive people like Nicole from the Modern Goddess to keep us inspired.

Nicole said...

You're right Anne, it is so much easier to put ourselves down or disregard positive comments because we don't believe them. It is another thing to work on changing those beliefs about ourselves. It is a conscious effort and something that we have to work hard at. Great post. :)